At first glance, the connection between movies and addiction seems a bit of a stretch; Some fun and some hell. What binds them together are the concepts of cunning, astonishing and powerful. Everyone in addiction recovery hears those words over and over, often learning the words by rote. But they are abstract concepts and are often not clear in a person’s mind. Movies, on the other hand, can offer emotional and visual examples of something that otherwise lacks true understanding. It is possible to learn from movies; They provide utterly bizarre experiences, touching every single one of our senses.
Movies are much more than simple entertainment. They are an artistically engineered product that can teach the odd. A really good film, with a compelling story, interesting characters and factual information intertwined in the story, provides the perfect teacher by making a lasting impression. We are drawn in, we feel something, we wake up to an experience and we remember. In movies, it is the story that connects us first. For a short time, we are part of the experience that is going on before us. We can see and hear what the characters do. Good characters and great acting remind us of people we know, or of ourselves and our experiences; We can relate. An actor’s facial expressions or body language can make us feel the same thing; His touch becomes our touch. Well-paced action keeps us engaged and our attention focused on the moment. Time is suspended. Music pulls the experience together and opens up our emotions to truly feel the experience. And, if we add in eating popcorn or candy, movies can give us a surreal experience that touches all of our physical senses: sight, sound, touch, taste and smell. An experience that awakens all of our senses is an experience that can be used therapeutically for behavioral change.
Addiction means we are occupied; A crazy jockey is riding us. We say and do things that we believe we will never say or do. And yet we do them. No matter what the consequences are, we do them. This brings up the first word of the addiction mantra: cunning. Sly means sly, calculating, clever or sly. After years of recovery, it can wait until you’re tired, or hungry, or angry, then suddenly come on as a thought… ten years on, I’m sure I’m one now I can have a drink Or, I haven’t quit it all these years, so I can’t really be an addict. The cunning of addiction leads us to believe what is not true. To see an example of the cunning personality, watch the movie River Wild with Kevin Bacon and Meryl Streep. Kevin Bacon’s character is cunning. He is friendly, helpful and seduces others to believe him by acting harmless. He constantly watches and reads people, gets to know them quickly. He waits for the right moment to strike and take advantage of others. Seeks the weak spot and attacks from the same direction. Below, he is cold-blooded, heartless and cruel. In addiction counseling, it is learning that we are in the clutches of the very cunning until we become alert. are in.
Do you remember Bill Massey at Fargo? He gives a classic example of the confusion and denial that baffles. He does not see that his life is unraveling before him. He can feel it physically, but that’s the part that drives him deeper. He lies to himself and everyone else. He believes his lies. Everything will be okay. He tells one lie to hide the other. We see Him compensating before our very eyes, as others can do to us when we refuse, to the moment we come face to face with the power of addiction. And that power is not loving and kind. It will destroy us.
I am now asking you to imagine a power beyond your present imagination. Unless you have actually gone through an earthquake, tornado, hurricane or other seismic insurrection of nature, you cannot really grasp the true meaning of powerful. Unless, of course, you’ve been consumed by addiction. Watch George Clooney in Perfect Storm. Throughout the film, he battles the convergent forces of nature one by one, deepening until he can escape. There is a sudden realization, with absolute clarity, a complete awareness of the true force of nature that he is facing, when he raises his head to see the wall of water falling upon him. It is a visceral experience of complete powerlessness. That is the power of addiction; So deep that you can’t get out on your own.
This is why people go to 12-step meetings. They are a reminder to be alert, to always remember that the predator, the addict, will seek out our weak spot, then attack. she is clever. There is a reason to listen to friends, family and the law when they tell us that our lives have become unbearable. And there’s a reason to gain self-awareness about why we’re sinking into habits of destructive behavior before we even go down the pier. The power of addiction can consume us. It does just that.
There is a way to raise awareness and gain knowledge that can aid in traditional addiction counseling. Rent River Wild, Fargo and Perfect Storm. Really understand the concepts of cunning, stunned and powerful. Then go to a 12-step meeting or therapy session and have a really honest discussion. It’s amazing how honesty can speed up the recovery process.